Many couples enter the world of swinging looking for a threesome with a single female. When they realize the difficulty in accomplishing that goal, many times the focus shifts to playing with couples. Single females in the lifestyle are typically called "unicorns" because of their rarity. While it may be difficult to have such a threesome, it is by no means impossible. Couples have several strategies they can use to end up in bed with that elusive unicorn.
Below is a general overview of each strategy. Follow up guides will be created for each strategy to give more detailed explanations.
Swinger Parties
It is rare to find a Single Female at a swinger's party, but if you attend enough of them you will come across them every so often. Some of them are merely curious, others only interested in girl and girl, and still others interested in the coveted threesome. If your sole goal is to have a threesome and you are not interested in foursomes and playing with other couples, then we do NOT recommend you attend swinger parties. If you come across a single female at a swinger's party that you are interested in, then be present in the moment and engage her. If you expect to have a threesome you cannot be shy and expect the girl to make the first, second or even third move. A single female practically has her choice of who to sleep with at a swinger's party.
Direct Approaching (Bars, Clubs & Parties)
While out in a vanilla (non-swinger) venue at night you can directly approach females you are interested in. You do not have to proposition the female right then and there, but after initiating conversation, building chemistry and rapport, in certain circumstances it may be possible to end the night in a threesome just as one would pursue a one night stand. Whether you wish for your female half to approach first or for both of you to approach together is a personal choice, however we do recommend against the male half of the couple approaching alone. Understand that if you pursue this strategy you will be turned down repeatedly, but there are girls interested in experiencing a threesome and if you connect with the right one when they are in an open state of mind and you do not do anything to creep her out or scare her away, you may get the experience you are looking for.
Female Friends
Female friends are an excellent source of finding girls to have a threesome with. The female half of the couple can talk with her friends and feel them out for a possible threesome. In addition, letting receptive friends know that you are looking for a threesome opens up the possibility for one to occur. Perhaps a friend is currently unavailable, but after a breakup they might be more inclined to explore and have fun. The male half of the couple may also share the desire with his female friends. If one of these girls are already interested in him then they may potentially be open to a threesome.
Individual Recruiting
If either of you find a girl attractive you can approach with the intention of having a threesome. If it is the female half approaching, she can be more direct. However, if it is the male half, the best option is to pursue the girl as someone you are interested in casual sex with. After you sleep with the girl once, begin feeling her out for a threesome. If you bring it up first you risk making her feel like a slut and are solely interested in her for the threesome. Many girls are more than comfortable engaging in casual sexual relationships and exploring new things with men after they have slept with them, but very few are as receptive to such ideas before they have already been intimate.
Online Sources
Websites such as Sexxy Mofo, Swing Life Style (SLS) and similar services have real single females looking for threesomes on their sites. However, those real Single Females are intermixed with even more profiles that are "fake" in that they are either men pretending to be women or women looking to lure couples and single men into visiting their pay website or paying to webcam. Understand that when messaging these girls, there is a tremendous amount of competition to try to get their attention. If your profile and message do not stand out from the crowd you are less likely to receive a response. While utilizing online services can result in threesomes, it is very difficult to do so. We recommend using online services to supplement your search, but it should not be your main strategy.
Below is a general overview of each strategy. Follow up guides will be created for each strategy to give more detailed explanations.
Swinger Parties
It is rare to find a Single Female at a swinger's party, but if you attend enough of them you will come across them every so often. Some of them are merely curious, others only interested in girl and girl, and still others interested in the coveted threesome. If your sole goal is to have a threesome and you are not interested in foursomes and playing with other couples, then we do NOT recommend you attend swinger parties. If you come across a single female at a swinger's party that you are interested in, then be present in the moment and engage her. If you expect to have a threesome you cannot be shy and expect the girl to make the first, second or even third move. A single female practically has her choice of who to sleep with at a swinger's party.
Direct Approaching (Bars, Clubs & Parties)
While out in a vanilla (non-swinger) venue at night you can directly approach females you are interested in. You do not have to proposition the female right then and there, but after initiating conversation, building chemistry and rapport, in certain circumstances it may be possible to end the night in a threesome just as one would pursue a one night stand. Whether you wish for your female half to approach first or for both of you to approach together is a personal choice, however we do recommend against the male half of the couple approaching alone. Understand that if you pursue this strategy you will be turned down repeatedly, but there are girls interested in experiencing a threesome and if you connect with the right one when they are in an open state of mind and you do not do anything to creep her out or scare her away, you may get the experience you are looking for.
Female Friends
Female friends are an excellent source of finding girls to have a threesome with. The female half of the couple can talk with her friends and feel them out for a possible threesome. In addition, letting receptive friends know that you are looking for a threesome opens up the possibility for one to occur. Perhaps a friend is currently unavailable, but after a breakup they might be more inclined to explore and have fun. The male half of the couple may also share the desire with his female friends. If one of these girls are already interested in him then they may potentially be open to a threesome.
Individual Recruiting
If either of you find a girl attractive you can approach with the intention of having a threesome. If it is the female half approaching, she can be more direct. However, if it is the male half, the best option is to pursue the girl as someone you are interested in casual sex with. After you sleep with the girl once, begin feeling her out for a threesome. If you bring it up first you risk making her feel like a slut and are solely interested in her for the threesome. Many girls are more than comfortable engaging in casual sexual relationships and exploring new things with men after they have slept with them, but very few are as receptive to such ideas before they have already been intimate.
Online Sources
Websites such as Sexxy Mofo, Swing Life Style (SLS) and similar services have real single females looking for threesomes on their sites. However, those real Single Females are intermixed with even more profiles that are "fake" in that they are either men pretending to be women or women looking to lure couples and single men into visiting their pay website or paying to webcam. Understand that when messaging these girls, there is a tremendous amount of competition to try to get their attention. If your profile and message do not stand out from the crowd you are less likely to receive a response. While utilizing online services can result in threesomes, it is very difficult to do so. We recommend using online services to supplement your search, but it should not be your main strategy.
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